Monday, February 23, 2009

What d'you think about that?

Since everyone on the Trannisphere has gone all Introspective White Emo Ranger I suppose I'd better join into.

Now the evenings are lighter, I've been able to start walking to work again. Which unfortunately gives me lots of time to think. Today I was musing on something Lara blogged about.

On Saturday I went out in the city, and ended up in my local tranny-friendly pub en homme.

The place wasn't very busy, but none of the regulars gave me a second look, and apart from the barstaff, I didn't really interact with anyone apart from the friends I was with (we chatted to the smokers while waiting for a taxi, but that was it).

When I go as Pandora, I banter with the DJ, have a joke to the bar staff, and get random strangers stopping by for a natter.

As I thought about it more, I realised that whenever I've been in regular pubs, people mainly keep to themselves (with a few exceptions). But when I'm Pandora, even in provincial town pubs, people are mostly friendly, and many will come over for a talk. The guys to congratulate me on my "bravery", and the girls to have a gossip and ask where where I got my top or shoes from.

There are generally only a few tossers, and they tend to stay outside in large herds for moral support. Sadly one comment from this lot can undo a whole week of confidence.

Although being Pan makes my confidence soar, and allows me to be more assertive. I really need to dress up and go out more!

So what conclusion can we draw from this? Obviously:

"Trannies make every social gathering better"!


Zosimus the Heathen said...

I can certainly relate to that. Though more of a dandy/peacock male myself than an outright tranny (though my wardrobe does contain a lot of women's clothing), I've had similar experiences when going out all glammed up. The best was when I went to a singles' ball once dressed as a fairy prince (literally); I don't think I've ever had so much fun in my life! As you say, it can be a bit nerve-wracking going out like that, but the risks usually prove worth it. Indeed, I find that if I go without wearing anything that makes me stand out for too long, my self-esteem starts to suffer. Being seen by everyone else as just another average, dull guy sucks!

Selina said...

I just wish I had your bravery

Pandora Caitiff said...

@Zosimus: The world became a poorer place when we lost the fops and the dandies. Glamming-it-up regardless of gender is to be encouraged!

@Selina: Thanks for your vote of confidence. Although I see from your blog that you had the courage to be a lady-that-lunches (not something I'd have the courage to do in a small group), so don't sell yourself short!

The key is to find a tolerant venue, and have supportive friends.

Lynn Jones said...

Could it be that you project more confidence when dressed?

There may also be a bit of novelty in having a chin way with a tranny. Sure, we exist, but folk don't see us every day.

Pandora Caitiff said...

I think you might be right on the money there Lynn!

A fabulous outfit (or a psychological mask to hide behind) does wonders for self confidence. And confidence can be very attractive. As long as it doesn't cross the line into arrogance of course!

And yes, trannies are so amazingly awesome that meeting one is anecdote material for weeks ;-)

Zosimus the Heathen said...

The world became a poorer place when we lost the fops and the dandies.

Indeed it did. As I said in a comment on Lynn's blog recently, it's all that blasted Beau Brummell's fault (him and the bloody French Revolution)! Damn him! Damn him to hell! I say! And also have condemned to eternal suffering whichever bore started all that nonsense about a watch being the only acceptable piece of jewellery for a man to wear! I want my bling! Mad bling! Big, shiny, glitzy, so-over-the-top-it-verges-on-vulgar bling!

Shinigami Liz said...

Hmmm, in a lot of ways I think I often had more fun out as a guy for probably the opposite reasoning. I am still working out how to transfer that fun don't-give-a-damn do whatever attitude over to my girl life. Ok, so most of it did travel the transition over to this side but there is still an adjustment that needs made as I figure out just how the hell do I fit in the world now. Once I have that worked out, I'll take a saw to that square peg hole and cut it into something unique that I slide into easily. ;)

LucyTolliday said...

Still yet to arrange a suitable night out in a 'muggle' venue. what you said matches my current traine of thought, i normally would like to melt into the background but that would realisticly never happen, so you might as well make the most and have fun.